From my heart to yours

A Fat Girl’s Rant

Posted on: March 3, 2011

I have been thinkin about writing this post for a while, but haven’t wanted to because I didn’t want to upset anybody or piss anybody off. But after a series of recent annoyances I don’t really care about it anymore, cause I’m tired of being the one who is upset. I’m gonna say this now: If you are upset or pissed or feel some type of way at all, then you’re probably guilty. And if you’re one of my friends, understand that I love you, but I’m so tired of this shit.

So here goes:

Yes I am FAT! OBESE! Whatever you want to call it. I know this. You know this. My momma and my daddy know it and so does Joe Blow who lives on the corner. What I don’t know or understand is why it is any of YOUR business. I am so sick and tired of people who have never had a weight problem being so judgemental of those of us who do. And the crazy thing about it to me is this: when someone has anorexia or an alcohol problem or a drug problem or some type of mental illness, people are scared to say anything to them and walk around on eggshells. But if someone is fat they literally are fair game for any and everyone. Nevermind what underlying diseases and/or mental problems they may have. I understand that a lot of you believe that all fat people are fat because they are lazy, but that is not always the case. There are many possible causes of obesity, do your research before you judge.

And here’s another tip. If you have a fat friend don’t make fun of other fat people in front of them. It’s only going to make them feel worse about themselves. I cannot tell y’all how I am so close to closing my Twitter and Facebook just because I’m so tired of seeing this happen. If that’s how you feel about fat people then that’s how you feel about me and telling me that you love me cause I’m your friend won’t make me feel any better, trust me.

Oh and here’s another thing. Don’t offer advice to us if we don’t ask you for it. Why? Because you don’t know SHIT about my problems! I’m not saying this to be mean. I’m saying it because it’s the truth. Have 1 conversation about obesity and suddenly everyone is an expert. I’ve had a random woman walk up to me in the parking lot of my gym telling me about a diet pill I should take. Oh and the man that held the door open for me on my way out of the gym, told me exactly how my workout sessions should go. And my favorite, the random lady who approached me in the locker room as I was changing my bra and asked me how much weight I want to lose before telling me how to lose it!

Seriously people?! This is out of hand! You can’t tell me what will work for me because you are not me. Sure you can tell me the general principles of weight loss, I know those too: Exercise keeping your heart rate between 135-145 for more than 30 minutes to burn fat. Do weight lifting exercises to gain muscles and help burn the fat quicker. Eat 5-6 small meals a day to quicken your metabolism. Thanks for that wonderful information, now can you tell me how to deal with the fact that I can’t eat when it’s convenient for me because my grandparents judge everything I eat? Can you explain to me why I don’t feel the positive aspects of exercise like elevated mood and feelings of success that everyone else feels? Oh and here’s a good one, can you tell me how to eat a perfectly balanced diet, while exercising and dealing with all of the problems that I’ve had with my weight for the past 15 years? No? So then why are we having this conversation?

Oh and while I’m at, shoutout to the cashier at the Publix who felt it was necessary to give me commentary on my groceries. Thanks for letting me know that the candy in my basket isn’t healthy. Guess the fact that I only ate 2 pieces of it doesn’t matter to you.

Here’s the bottom line folks: Don’t make fun of fat people around me or your fat friends. I’m tired of holding my tongue, so I’m not going to anymore. I will call you out on it and make you feel just as uncomfortable as I do when you say it. And for anyone who is not friends with me. If you make fun of fat people in front of your fat friends and they just smile or laugh and go along with the joke, it’s not because they are ok with it, trust me. They might just feel uncomfortable about speaking up for themselves. And seriously guys, if you’re not asked for help then don’t comment on my weight, what I’m eating or my exercise regimen. Cause that’s not gonna make me feel any better either. As a matter of fact, if I don’t bring up my weight then there’s no reason for you to be worried about it at all. if you are so concerned about my weight, then have a conversation with me about why its a problem, I have no problem talking about it to people who ask. It’s better than feeling like I’m being judged.

And for your information: Yes I’m angry. Maybe I’m bitter. No I’m not just being sensitive.

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